Jennifer Isobel McKay Memorial | Forever In Our Hearts

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Birthplace: ...grew up in Mackay, Queensland, Australia

Residence: ...formerly of Islamabad, Pakistan.

Service Date: Tue, 16 December 2025, 3:15 PM

Service Location: The Rose Chapel, Macquarie Park Cemetery, North Ryde, Sydney

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Update: 15DEC25.
Please use the following PIN number to access the livestreaming: 2594

The charity page has been updated so that it will take you directly to the school's icare link. In the special instructions, please say that your donation is on behalf of Jennifer McKay. For those in Australia, or if you are having problems using the link, please transfer to Adrienne's account below and reference it as for Jenny. We will then arrange for a bulk transfer to be sent through to the school. Or if you are having trouble accessing the link, please email Adrienne and we will get the link directly to you.

Jenny loved the garden, a place that is full of colour. We would like to pass this on to the dress code and ask that you wear something that is bright and cheerful in celebration of life. If you are more comfortable with sombre colours, that is also okay. Whatever you decide is no problem at all.

As part of the service, we will be lighting a candle in Jenny's memory, and welcome those attending via livestream, to have a candle with you to light at the same time.

If you are attending in person, you are welcome to join for afternoon tea after the service concludes. Details will be provided at the service.

Instead of sending flowers or other tributes, we believe Jenny would prefer that your contributions be put to good use. We have chosen the Nasra School in Karachi, Pakistan, as we believe this will continue to support Jenny’s quest to empower the younger generations through access to education.

Please click on the ‘Fundraiser” button above to visit their website. Australian bank account holders are welcome to deposit money into the following account for a bulk international transfer after the funeral.
Acc Name: Mr SJ and Mrs AI Rourke
BSB: 084 069
Acc No: 873 848 609

A link for the livestream will be made available before the funeral, so please check here again over the coming days. This link will be available on Monday, 15th December.

If you have any questions about the funeral or leaving a tribute, please email adrienne.rourke@bigpond.com

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"Nana" Jennifer, you are an inspiration to so many and a beautiful example of what it means to live life to the fullest. Your humour, your warm laughter, and your generous spirit will be deeply missed.

You still make the best roast loin I have ever tasted, and every time I think of it, I will think of you and smile. Thank you for the love, joy, and memories you shared so freely with everyone around you.

Love you always, and by God’s grace, see you again in heaven.

Dearest Jen you landed in my life a year ago as a big splash of color I didn't know I needed, when Sue connected us. It was such fun learning about each other's lives and discovering our birth father's rich story and more half siblings. I miss your wit, humor and wry observations on the world. I loved your tales of life in Pakistan and your beautiful friends there and around the world. Your humanity, kindness and compassion for others was endless. You were so humble for someone who lived such a big life. A mutual love of landscape photography was a bonus and your photos of your adopted home are something else.

It was definitely an unusual way to have a family reunion but it was an honor and a privilege to spend much of the last eight weeks with you in Sydney and to celebrate your 75th birthday with Sue. I shall forever remember to serve icecream as an entree not dessert. Cue the Jenn

It's hard to imagine a world without Jen. She was a truly special person: warm, wonderful, principled and kind. So many memories from a very long friendship, so much sharing of joys and woes, so much support. Jen, you were dearly loved and will be much missed. There is a big hole in my heart now.

Today feels especially heavy knowing that it is Jennifer’s memorial.

Thank you so much to all of you who have prepared everything for Jen. Seeing the love around her is no surprise — it reflects exactly who she was.

I truly wish I could be there.

For now, I can only say goodbye quietly from here.

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Jen
A joy it was sharing the past 10 years, dear friend - sometimes in the same town or from different hemispheres. I will always treasure the half I spent with you in Islamabad. Your dry wit, keen mind and sharp eye kept things light when challenging. You could always make me laugh with a pithy comment. Or find time to walk me through the complexities of an unfamiliar environment. The past two years were such fun. Memories of sipping a glass or three of bubbles in the pool over a cheese platter and gossip with friends will long endure.
And now, like past occasions you have slipped quietly out the door, without fanfare. But unlike those times, my heart breaks to know you won’t be slipping back in. I will miss you, Jen. But I’m glad to know that in your final weeks in this life you were surrounded by friends and family who loved you.
I see you now catching up with our dear friend MG,

While I met Jenn professionally in my time in Pakistan, our friendship remained long after I left Islamabad and my job as a diplomat. Jenn and I stayed in touch via Skype calls and FaceTime as well as on Facebook and instagram messaging for hours lamenting the state of the world and updating each other on our health, our lives and the ups and downs.

Jenn was always the cheerleader of people’s lives, always helping others and looking after people. Jenn was able to offer guidance on everything and anything. Even in her last weeks the only questions she wanted to know were about how everyone was, what they were doing and whether they were ok.

I was happy to be reunited with Jenn after many years when she returned to Sydney (although it was under difficult circumstances). We were able to enjoy a glass of champagne for her birthday and she left this world peacefully, looking glamorous

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I had only the privilege of meeting Jenny a few times, but even in those brief moments she struck me as a truly remarkable woman — warm, gracious and full of life. Her kindness and the way she lived will stay with me, and I’m deeply sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with Jenny’s family and everyone who loved her during this difficult time.

Photo taken Xmas 2024

Jen walked into a room and I thought she was…… stunning! And then we talked and she was funny and cheeky and never afraid to be snarky - we had so many laughs! And then when I needed advice she was full of plans and strategies and the first to act. And when life’s more difficult times came around she was full of warm support and empathy.

Jen was so many things to so many people. A remarkable person in character and capability. She gave a lot of herself and never asked for anything in return.

I wanted to keep you back for a few moments longer the night you left. I worried we were rushing you, but then you told me “it’s time” and it gave me courage to let you go…
Till we meet again my friend. Rest in peace.

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Three years ago, our lives changed in the most unexpected and beautiful way. We found a sister we never knew we had - someone who welcomed us with such excitement, joy and an open heart. From the very first messages we exchanged, it felt as though we had known each other forever. She was thrilled to discover she had two more sisters, and we were equally blessed to have found her. We wish we had been given more time to truly know her, and to build the memories we were only just beginning to create. But even in that brief time, she left a lasting imprint on our hearts. Seeing how deeply she was respected, admired and loved by so many brings us comfort. It reminds us that the warmth we felt from her was the same light she shared with everyone around her. She was a sister not just by chance, but by spirit and by the kindness she carried in her life. We will be forever grateful tha

Card received from Jean (nee) McNichol

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Thank you Jen, for the kind touch you left, everywhere you went. You were so thoughtful towards my mother (your cousin Heather), and myself many years ago. You hosted us in your comfortable home in Sydney, letting us stay for 4 days, even though you had to travel for work during that time. Thank you for your generosity xoxo

We are very sad to hear of Jen’s passing. Such a remarkable woman and we are proud to have called her our friend. We will miss the International Woman of Mystery and remember her always.

I still find it hard to understand what has happened in the last year. When we said goodbye in Islamabad I imagined it would be a while before I was back to see you. Nevertheless you were a constant presence on calls and in messages, helping me rebuild life in the U.K. and filling me in on Islamabad gossip.
I am so glad that we got to see each other again in Sydney. It was lovely to see you surrounded by friends and family. I just wish the circumstances had been very different.
I will miss you so much. And I will always remember your cackling laughter as you eyed a buffet, armed with a glass of bubbles.

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Jen, how lucky we are to have you in our lives, and so many lives that you have touched across your extraordinary life.

While we hadn’t seen you for some time in Mackay, you were always a Mackay girl, and only a message away, regularly checking for a special occasion and sharing an update on life in Pakistan.

While you knew me my whole life, we didn't become friends until I moved to Sydney and then stayed with you in Clarence St. Oh, the tennis nights, the endless chit-chat on the couch, and to witness the start of your ongoing passion for helping vulnerable women in Pakistan.

To our International Woman of Mystery, you achieved so much; we are super proud to have had you in our lives and will forever have you in our hearts.

Sad to hear about Jennifer’s passing. I had a few interactions with her—first during our UN-Habitat MHVFR work in Chitral and DI Khan when she was with ADPC, and later at the WFP office last year. She made remarkable contributions to Pakistan and its people.

May her soul rest in peace. 🖤

“Dowager Duchess Jen” — forgive me for sharing my secret nickname, but it captured the elegance, kindness, and quiet nobility you carried effortlessly. Your blush and giggle at it is a memory I will always treasure. You lifted every spirit, even in your own shadows; your tale of your cat and the hip.. still makes me laugh. Your poise, your perfect humour, your ever-growing faith and spirituality — a thing of beauty, fully embodied. I cherish our days in Islamabad, neighbouring housemates at Grace’s Guesthouse, where so many happiest memories were made. Your friendship, your soul-sisterhood, the eternal gift of our bond, carried me through missions and the years beyond. I cannot imagine a life without you in it. Your spirit, impish; your conduct, impeccable; your love and light — unforgettable. It was an honour to be your friend, to share our victories and challenges and a lot of laughte

Darling Jen I can’t believe you are gone -how life flys by until it stops you in your tracks as the social post of your passing did to me today. How long we have known each other … centuries …. more than 50 years … it feels like yesterday when you and Rob and Peter and I had so many fun times together. Life took us down different paths to those days but we never lost contact. I was in awe of the range of your considerable talents - from fitting out luxury yachts to your extraordinary life of service in Pakistan. You were always the same beautiful woman through all that life threw your way … rest in peace Jen you made your mark and there will be hundreds of people you will not forget your kindness and that special Jen laugh. RIP Jen ♥️♥️

I am deeply saddened with this news 🖤, & so is my daughter. Our sincere condolences to her family in Australia & to her friends in Pakistan, some of whom were like family to her. She loved being in Pakistan, to my knowledge.
We worked together in the post-2010 flood reconstruction; in fact Jennifer evaluated our programme (UN-Habitat), & a healthy friendship with my daughter & I followed. The last time we met was in June 2022 (see photo) when I went back to visit Pakistan & the places we worked a decade before. We had a long lovely chat about what I observed in that trip, the UN, Pakistan (which we both liked), our common friends & our lives... in a new cafe in Islamabad.
I now understand why I did not hear from her when I sent her birthday greetings to her last month😔. It is hard to believe...
I have fond memories of deep discussions with her; she was extremely smart, kind-hearte

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I did have the privilege of working closely with Jennifer in Islamabad. She was (not easy to talk about her in the past tense), a dedicated, caring and committed humanitarian worker. She made Pakistan her home and Pakistan embraced her. I shall miss you, dear friend. But like the hot sunsets of Islamabad, I know you're shining somewhere else, providing the light you were so generous with here, on this side of sunrise. Fair sails and godspeed to you. Until we meet again🌅💚👏‼️🇨🇦

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Most of the Australians I met in Pakistan (other than those with family ties) were with the UN, World Bank, MSF etc or the High Commission like me. Jen was different. She wasn’t on a posting, she was living there. She did a lot for Pakistan and Pakistanis and was loved for it. She never stopped being Australian but she belonged there. She was a one-off, a simple, good natured person who lived an extraordinary life. RIP Jen

Photo taken March 2025 - Jen helped me pack up after a decade + in Pakistan kept me calm throughout. It never occurred to me I wouldn’t see her again .

I still catch myself reaching for my phone to message you another trash TV update, some complaint about Britain, the bloody dissertation. You’d have already watched it, of course, and you’d have said “you’ve got this” about the dissertation in that steady way you had.

For over a decade you backed my ridiculous plans and talked me down from the ledge more times than I can count. You made everything easier just by being there.

You were kind and funny and sharp, and I don’t know anyone else like you. I miss you constantly. Our friends are here, and I’m grateful for that, but there’s a space you filled that no one else can. Thank you, Jen x

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Dearest Jen, we met 23 years ago when you kindly arranged for us to watch the Australian Open in your company box. We got on so well that since then you’ve become our family friend, Aunty Jen to Ineza , Haga and Shasha. You’ve been with us through many ups and downs, ours and yours, and throughout you have always been a steadfast friend.

It’s been a while since we’ve seen you, Jen and now we’ll never see you again. But Tara, the kids and I will always remember you as a kind funny and very good and generous-hearted friend. We’ll miss you and always remember you.

Lots of love,

Marina, Tara, Ineza, Haga and Shasha,
Kuala Lumpur

Jen had an enormous capacity to love, support, and see the best in people. She gathered ‘sisters’ and family wherever she went, so I feel deeply privileged that she was my biological half-sister, who welcomed me into her life. This never lessened her love for the family who raised her; she spoke warmly of her parents, her brother Geoffrey, and her upbringing in Mackay, as well as her extended family and dear friends who were so crucial to her life and world.

When I first contacted her early 2023 I was unsure of what to expect, but she replied with joy: ‘Wow, how wonderful. I’ve never had a sister and now I do.’ We just clicked and our bond grew, especially in 2024 when Jeanette joined us, and our regular messages – often beginning with ‘Happy Friday dear Sisters’ – became a treasured part of our week.

We were honoured to be with Jen in her final months and to celebrate her 75th bir

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I am so sorry to hear the news of Jennifer’s passing. I first met Jennifer when we were school children in Mackay, both learning piano with the same music teacher. It was many years before we were in contact again, through a mutual friend on Facebook. We had some lovely chats together from then on. Rest in peace, Jennifer.

Jennifer was great soul and someone who loved her work. She inspired many like me in Pakistan with her leadership, presence and her work on disaster risk reduction to help people hard to reach areas . Her commitment to work and peculiar sense of humour will always stay with me.

So very sad to hear . May Almighty Allah bless her soul and place her in the highest echelons of heavens . She was a wonderful person with a lovely heart , amazing qualities , incredible devotion and dedication . My heartfelt prayer 🤲 and condolences 💐.

So sad to hear of the passing of this beautiful lady.
We grew up together in Mackay and spent many a happy times at school and also when she came to our house for sleepovers.
Caught up with Jennifer a few years ago through Facebook and always got the most beautiful messages from her.
Rest easy my friend

Jennifer and I have had breakfasts, lunches , dinners and moon serenades together. The last moon eclipse left us both with a stiff neck but with the feeling of yet another time well spent together. I loved her wry sense of humor, so in sync with mine. Miss her so much.

Our beautiful friend. We are deeply saddened to hear of your passing. Our hearts are breaking. Three of us, Jennifer McKay, Jennifer Clark and myself schooled together from our very early grades to our junior years in Mackay. A few years back we all reconnected and much to our joy, correspondence flew back and forth between us like we had never been separated. (No FB in our days sadly). Jen we were so proud of you and your achievements and of the love and caring you gave to all you met. We will miss you greatly 😔….J’s x 2.

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Remarkable woman, the kindest soul. While our paths crossed just for a while, the mark it left runs deep and she will continue to inspire by her kindness and compassion. I am grateful for the time we shared. Rest in peace Jen, your memory will live on.

It's so hard to imagine that my dear friend Jennifer is really gone.
No longer will I ever be able to hear that lovely voice and see her again.
A beautiful soul in every way gone , but her memory and spirit will always remain with me and I will always cherish each and every moment we spent together.

Prayers for the precious soul...

We mourn the passing of Jennifer McKay, a distinguished humanitarian whose life was defined by service, compassion, and unwavering commitment to human dignity. Her loss is deeply felt in Pakistan, where her efforts left an indelible mark on communities and development initiatives. Jennifer was not only a respected global figure but a steadfast partner to Pakistan, championing education, empowerment, and social progress. Her vision and generosity strengthened countless lives and inspired hope where it was most needed. Today, we honour her extraordinary legacy and reaffirm our resolve to carry forward the values she embodied. Pakistan will remember Jennifer McKay as a true friend and a beacon of humanity.

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Jen lived an extraordinary, generous life. Her passing is not only a public loss, but a deeply personal one for so many Pakistanis like me who felt her kindness, courage, and belief in their potential. She changed and influenced countless lives and contributed immensely to Pakistan—respected as a leader, cherished as a friend, and loved as a truly wonderful human being. Among her lasting legacies is the work she did—one of them a girls’ school in Waziristan that she helped stand on its feet as a philanthropist, giving young girls the chance to learn, dream, and lead. We celebrate her grace & service, and we carry her light forward in the lives she touched. May her example continue to inspire us. She will be dearly missed 💔

You will forever be the International Lady of Mystery - the woman who made a life out of knowing how to lunch.
You have touched so many people by your kindness, generosity, and desire to do 'good' in the world.
I doubt there was anyone who wouldn't succumb to your 'Midas' touch when it came to negotiations as they were always done in the best interest of the recipients.
We have all lost a respected family member, friend, mentor, and fairy godmother.
Rest in peace beautiful Lady of the Luncheon.

I lost my mentor! Jennifer was a great human being. Indeed its a great loss for her family but for Pakistan too. Dear Jennifer you & your contribution will be remembered! Rest in peace ameen !

My association with Jennifer dates back to post Earthquake 2005. Wonderful colleague and a great friend. She will be remembered in Pakistan; her second home, by so many. May her soul rest in peace and give patience to her family to bear the loss. Aameen

Jennifer will live forever in her hearts. She was caring and a friend brining happiness and laughter on sad faces. Stay blessed Jennifer and May your soul rest in peace

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